The way to really win the trust of someone is to be a good listener. That doesn't mean you are silent waiting for your turn to speak. It means you really hear what the other person is saying. This is very helpful because without you knowing it the information that you are recieving will be priceless later. Like birthdays, favorite colors, likes, dislikes, and just the everyday stuff. Example you know she dreads Thursday at work because that's when her boss comes in and tries to play catch up for missing the last four days and tries to cramming a weeks worth of work into 4 insane hours. Then the boss is off again giving your lady room to breathe again. How can you use this to your advantage?
Brownie points is how. Knowing she's going to be stressed you can send her a nice pick me up text out of the blue or flowers to her office. It can also be the night of the week you make sure you take her to dinner or a movie. You just say, "Baby, how about I take you out to eat. I know you have to be tired after work." Or you can give her a massage.
She'll believe you really care because you listened to her complain about her crazy boss on Thursdays. Leaving you with at least three days of her moon over what a wonderful person you are so you can attend to your other prospects.
Sounds like a lot of work? Well no one said being a player is easy. The rewards of achieving true player status is what we're after, remember that.
So, tip number three is easy. Just listen and hear what she is offering to you for leverage later. Easy peasy, you are on your way to true player status.
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