The way to really win the trust of someone is to be a good listener. That doesn't mean you are silent waiting for your turn to speak. It means you really hear what the other person is saying. This is very helpful because without you knowing it the information that you are recieving will be priceless later. Like birthdays, favorite colors, likes, dislikes, and just the everyday stuff. Example you know she dreads Thursday at work because that's when her boss comes in and tries to play catch up for missing the last four days and tries to cramming a weeks worth of work into 4 insane hours. Then the boss is off again giving your lady room to breathe again. How can you use this to your advantage?
Brownie points is how. Knowing she's going to be stressed you can send her a nice pick me up text out of the blue or flowers to her office. It can also be the night of the week you make sure you take her to dinner or a movie. You just say, "Baby, how about I take you out to eat. I know you have to be tired after work." Or you can give her a massage.
She'll believe you really care because you listened to her complain about her crazy boss on Thursdays. Leaving you with at least three days of her moon over what a wonderful person you are so you can attend to your other prospects.
Sounds like a lot of work? Well no one said being a player is easy. The rewards of achieving true player status is what we're after, remember that.
So, tip number three is easy. Just listen and hear what she is offering to you for leverage later. Easy peasy, you are on your way to true player status.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Monday, August 2, 2010
Tip #2 Make them feel special
One of the most important things you can do as a wanna be player is to make the person feel special. Like they are the only person you want to be with. This is especially important because once you have done this then you can pretty much do anything and they will still hang on just in case you change your mind and want them to be your number one.
How you make them feel special is you show interest in what they like to do. Like go to the movies, you pay. Listen without interupting. Tell jokes and show your witt. Wait to make a move telling them you want to know it's right. Call or text them just that you are thinking about them. A good morning message is nice too and a hope you have a good night message goes a long way when you are heading out the door to the other person you are playing.
Then after abouta week or so of this. Long enough for them to get used to it, start pulling away some. This will only make the person more curious about you and what you think of them and what they mean to you. Now you have them. They are hook because nobody likes to be dumped or feel like they are not good enough. So you start coming back around and doing all the same things you did in the beginning. That will make them feel like you did chose to be with them. Then you wait another couple weeks and pull away again to go see the other person you also have in this cycle.
It's almost like you are a puppetier. Pulling the strings. After the second round of this pulling them in and out of self doubt you can now start doing what wanna be players like to do best. And that's flaunting your complete disregard for anyone's feeling but your own. You have now created a great foundation of self doubt and loathing with you wanna be partner with just enough "caring" that you can work the strings anyway you want now.
Remember making them feel special is the key to going from a wanna be player to a true player. Be on the look out though for the played that feed on wanna be players. They are out there and have run across your kind before, more than once most likely. If you start to feel them doing what you know is the foundation to your playerhood. Run the other way, fast. You are not mature enough in your player quest to handle this leave of a player. They are hard and dark inside and have seen your game before. They will eat you alive and they live for the chance to feed on new wanna be players to satisfy their empty, sad days.
So be on the look out for the played. They are the only ones that can stop a wanna be player. And they delight in their revenge. And you will not win against them.
So remember, make them feel special, as if they are the only ones. Pull away before you get too comfortable and repeat the process of winning their trust and pulling away. It's like reeling in a fish. Beware of the played. And remember by playing with these new people you become more in demand and more desirable and that's why you have to continue in your quest to be a true player. Never become satified and never say sorry. Next lesson is to always make it their fault so you never have to say sorry.
Until then, happy playing.
How you make them feel special is you show interest in what they like to do. Like go to the movies, you pay. Listen without interupting. Tell jokes and show your witt. Wait to make a move telling them you want to know it's right. Call or text them just that you are thinking about them. A good morning message is nice too and a hope you have a good night message goes a long way when you are heading out the door to the other person you are playing.
Then after abouta week or so of this. Long enough for them to get used to it, start pulling away some. This will only make the person more curious about you and what you think of them and what they mean to you. Now you have them. They are hook because nobody likes to be dumped or feel like they are not good enough. So you start coming back around and doing all the same things you did in the beginning. That will make them feel like you did chose to be with them. Then you wait another couple weeks and pull away again to go see the other person you also have in this cycle.
It's almost like you are a puppetier. Pulling the strings. After the second round of this pulling them in and out of self doubt you can now start doing what wanna be players like to do best. And that's flaunting your complete disregard for anyone's feeling but your own. You have now created a great foundation of self doubt and loathing with you wanna be partner with just enough "caring" that you can work the strings anyway you want now.
Remember making them feel special is the key to going from a wanna be player to a true player. Be on the look out though for the played that feed on wanna be players. They are out there and have run across your kind before, more than once most likely. If you start to feel them doing what you know is the foundation to your playerhood. Run the other way, fast. You are not mature enough in your player quest to handle this leave of a player. They are hard and dark inside and have seen your game before. They will eat you alive and they live for the chance to feed on new wanna be players to satisfy their empty, sad days.
So be on the look out for the played. They are the only ones that can stop a wanna be player. And they delight in their revenge. And you will not win against them.
So remember, make them feel special, as if they are the only ones. Pull away before you get too comfortable and repeat the process of winning their trust and pulling away. It's like reeling in a fish. Beware of the played. And remember by playing with these new people you become more in demand and more desirable and that's why you have to continue in your quest to be a true player. Never become satified and never say sorry. Next lesson is to always make it their fault so you never have to say sorry.
Until then, happy playing.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Tip #1 THE TEXTER
There's certain things the wanna be player must have and one of them is a good texting phone. See when you text you can do that from anywhere. Weather you are in a restaurant or on a boat for a three day weekend at the beach after you told the person you were with that you had the flu and couldn't make it to their important company party where they will name her humanitarian of the year and give her a check of $100,000.
See texting allows you to be in two places or at time. You can carry on many conversations at the same time. Telling everyone how much you care about them while you are out hunting for more prey.
Once you have this great texting phone here's a couple things to be aware of. One, let's be fiscally smart and get an unlimited texting plan. Nobody likes a broke player. Two, you can make yourself look smarter by actually writing out the word. That way you avoid confusion if something is abbreviated and can mean a couple different things. And it will earn you bonus points with the ladies if they feel you have the intelligence of that fake Harvard degree hanging on your wall. You know the one right next to your MIT degree, also fake. And three, always and I mean always, check who you are sending the text to before you send the text. You don't want Mary Jane hearing about what a great time you had last night, when you blew her off last night for a night with Sandra. Also don't send out one text linked to many people. No one wants to think they were an after thought or just put on the list. Plus, your objective as a wanna be player is to make someone feel like they are the only one, not one of many. Also you can check the details on any message and see how many phone numbers you sent that message to.
Now, when to text. Text whenever but always text first thing in the morning. Let's us believe we were on your mind when you woke up and before you go to sleep for the same reason. Again as a wanna be player you must make the other person believe they are the only person you think about.
After you text make sure you clean out your inbox and outbox of any messages not from the person you want to get caught with. And even check your online account with your cell phone carrier. You will be surprised what is saved to your phone without knowing. Especially pictures.
Discretion is the name of the game in texting. It is a great way to stay in touch and keep your bases covered. It is an essential tool for the modern wanna be player. When used properly it can be a powerful tool in your quest to be a true player.
Now the one lesson all true players know about texting is to keep the texting to a minimum when you are on a so called date or hanging out with a prospect. Call the incoming text work, or mom, or your best friend from second grade you just reunited with on Facebook. But try to keep it to a minimum. Back to rule number one of all wanna be players. "Make the person your with feel like they are the only one." Live by that rule and you will be successful.
See texting allows you to be in two places or at time. You can carry on many conversations at the same time. Telling everyone how much you care about them while you are out hunting for more prey.
Once you have this great texting phone here's a couple things to be aware of. One, let's be fiscally smart and get an unlimited texting plan. Nobody likes a broke player. Two, you can make yourself look smarter by actually writing out the word. That way you avoid confusion if something is abbreviated and can mean a couple different things. And it will earn you bonus points with the ladies if they feel you have the intelligence of that fake Harvard degree hanging on your wall. You know the one right next to your MIT degree, also fake. And three, always and I mean always, check who you are sending the text to before you send the text. You don't want Mary Jane hearing about what a great time you had last night, when you blew her off last night for a night with Sandra. Also don't send out one text linked to many people. No one wants to think they were an after thought or just put on the list. Plus, your objective as a wanna be player is to make someone feel like they are the only one, not one of many. Also you can check the details on any message and see how many phone numbers you sent that message to.
Now, when to text. Text whenever but always text first thing in the morning. Let's us believe we were on your mind when you woke up and before you go to sleep for the same reason. Again as a wanna be player you must make the other person believe they are the only person you think about.
After you text make sure you clean out your inbox and outbox of any messages not from the person you want to get caught with. And even check your online account with your cell phone carrier. You will be surprised what is saved to your phone without knowing. Especially pictures.
Discretion is the name of the game in texting. It is a great way to stay in touch and keep your bases covered. It is an essential tool for the modern wanna be player. When used properly it can be a powerful tool in your quest to be a true player.
Now the one lesson all true players know about texting is to keep the texting to a minimum when you are on a so called date or hanging out with a prospect. Call the incoming text work, or mom, or your best friend from second grade you just reunited with on Facebook. But try to keep it to a minimum. Back to rule number one of all wanna be players. "Make the person your with feel like they are the only one." Live by that rule and you will be successful.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
What I'm here for....
If you are thinking, "Tips for a wanna be player written by woman?" Yes, written by a woman. This blog is to inform and entertain. Mostly it's my experiences I have encountered over the past, ummm, let's say, way too many decades to mention.
Since I started dating when I was seventeen years old. I have encountered boys that believed they were men and men that I believed were more boy than most four year olds with a new Tonka truck. I have dated the womanizer, the it-wasn't-me-er, the friends have my back guy, the texter, the momma's boy and so many others. the one thing they all had in common was they all thought they were players. Some knew it and some didn't, but they all can definitely be classified as players.
Now I am not saying that all men cheat or do these things. Just the ones I have encountered. Also please don't take this blog as male bashing either. I loved them all for the lesson I learned no matter how difficult they were to learn. I also know that there are plenty of woman out there that fit the player description as well.
Basically I've noticed everyone seems to want to be a player. So I had an idea after my last encounter to write a blog to help show the signs of a wanna be player and maybe help the wanna be player in some way better themselves. Because the last person that I dated played the player role so amazingly bad he gave players around the world a reason to hang their head in shame for a moment of silence and to take away his lifetime membership card for good.
So let's have some fun. I'll share my stories and you share yours and let's get through this crazy thing called dating together.
Since I started dating when I was seventeen years old. I have encountered boys that believed they were men and men that I believed were more boy than most four year olds with a new Tonka truck. I have dated the womanizer, the it-wasn't-me-er, the friends have my back guy, the texter, the momma's boy and so many others. the one thing they all had in common was they all thought they were players. Some knew it and some didn't, but they all can definitely be classified as players.
Now I am not saying that all men cheat or do these things. Just the ones I have encountered. Also please don't take this blog as male bashing either. I loved them all for the lesson I learned no matter how difficult they were to learn. I also know that there are plenty of woman out there that fit the player description as well.
Basically I've noticed everyone seems to want to be a player. So I had an idea after my last encounter to write a blog to help show the signs of a wanna be player and maybe help the wanna be player in some way better themselves. Because the last person that I dated played the player role so amazingly bad he gave players around the world a reason to hang their head in shame for a moment of silence and to take away his lifetime membership card for good.
So let's have some fun. I'll share my stories and you share yours and let's get through this crazy thing called dating together.
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